Dear Duet,
People have told me that my expectations are too high and that I want my love life to look like a romantic comedy most of the time. I really just want a high level of respect, laugher, love, fun, friendship and integrity. Why is that so hard to come by and why do people tell me that my expectations are too high for wanting those things?
- Don't Stop Believin'
Dear Believer,
It used to bother me when people would tell me my expectations were too high until one day I figured out that their expectations were too low. Now it doesn’t bother me anymore. High expectations are good. It’s wonderful to want a high level of respect, laughter, love, fun, friendship and integrity with a partner. Keep wanting them.
The key is not to let your high standards keep you from creating an intimate relationship. High standards can be a way of hiding out. Don’t let that happen to you. Keep your heart open, keep the bar high, and go after the relationship you truly want.
People have told me that my expectations are too high and that I want my love life to look like a romantic comedy most of the time. I really just want a high level of respect, laugher, love, fun, friendship and integrity. Why is that so hard to come by and why do people tell me that my expectations are too high for wanting those things?
- Don't Stop Believin'
Dear Believer,
It used to bother me when people would tell me my expectations were too high until one day I figured out that their expectations were too low. Now it doesn’t bother me anymore. High expectations are good. It’s wonderful to want a high level of respect, laughter, love, fun, friendship and integrity with a partner. Keep wanting them.
The key is not to let your high standards keep you from creating an intimate relationship. High standards can be a way of hiding out. Don’t let that happen to you. Keep your heart open, keep the bar high, and go after the relationship you truly want.